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26-Apr-2003, 11:44 PM
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It all comes down to whether or not you feel you can ever trust him again. If you dont think you can ever trust him the way you did before then there is no point in trying to fix things. The best thing to do is maybe keep in contact and just be friends. Go out with some girls or something to a club or drinking and just let loose for a bit. For sure someone new will come along and take you mind off of things and make you smile. As you mentioned before you have had a pretty long and serious relationship with this guy and now he fucked you over. Dont let him ruin your outlook on other guys or on relationships in general. Hope everything is alright.
PeAcE,
Chris
PeAcE,
Chris
28-Apr-2003, 04:34 AM
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Originally posted by harper
i asked her wtf was going on, and she said he said he was single
i asked her wtf was going on, and she said he said he was single
Read this again........what does it mean to you?(stop and think hard about this, then answer)
If I were in your shoe's, I'd tell him to.........
It all comes down to whether or not you feel you can ever trust him again. If you dont think you can ever trust him the way you did before then there is no point in trying to fix things.
28-Apr-2003, 02:52 PM
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Side Note:
Just a quick question...
Are you HARPER or are you just his GF who is using his login to post?
The reason why I'm asking is because I'd be kinda pissed off if someone (GF/BF/whatever) I knew started posting my personal business (right or wrong) on a board I normally post on under my own name. I hope that's not the case.
This has nothing to do with the cheating/suspicious situation.
Just a quick question...
Are you HARPER or are you just his GF who is using his login to post?
The reason why I'm asking is because I'd be kinda pissed off if someone (GF/BF/whatever) I knew started posting my personal business (right or wrong) on a board I normally post on under my own name. I hope that's not the case.
This has nothing to do with the cheating/suspicious situation.
28-Apr-2003, 03:24 PM
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Originally posted by Si Veloz
imo..
if he's even leaving you with the inkling of thoughts that something is going on, you two don't belong together..
and wtf?? even if he is cheating you don't wanna lose him??
(sorry for the bluntness of this comment..but) give yer head a shake girl..once a cheater always a cheater, especially if you let him get away with it.."oh it's okay, just promise to never do it again.." ya, sure, that'll work..
i dunno you, but from what you're telling us, and how you're relaying the story and your feelings about what be, imo you deserve better than this shyt..
ten grand lost is cheaper than any broken heart furthur down the road..
imo..
if he's even leaving you with the inkling of thoughts that something is going on, you two don't belong together..
and wtf?? even if he is cheating you don't wanna lose him??
(sorry for the bluntness of this comment..but) give yer head a shake girl..once a cheater always a cheater, especially if you let him get away with it.."oh it's okay, just promise to never do it again.." ya, sure, that'll work..
i dunno you, but from what you're telling us, and how you're relaying the story and your feelings about what be, imo you deserve better than this shyt..
ten grand lost is cheaper than any broken heart furthur down the road..
^^^ Ya, it'll just end up like this - not worth it
Listen to what Si Veloz said... the man is right. Hit the eject button while you still can. I did, and I didn't have 1/2 the evidence you got... All I had was a lack of attention and no
LOL and I said fuggit, girl's a gonner. Apparently, from what I heard, she married the guy who she cheated with while she was with me. Now, this is totally a rumour that could be way off, but 
I don't care either way. 
so many fine *** women, how could I be concerned?? 
28-Apr-2003, 04:11 PM
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ya, listen to what bb said..
he's right when he says i'm right
thanx for the vote of confidence tho bb
(sorry, just trying to lighten things up..a little laughter goes a long way sometimes..)
he's right when he says i'm right
thanx for the vote of confidence tho bb
(sorry, just trying to lighten things up..a little laughter goes a long way sometimes..)
28-Apr-2003, 05:42 PM
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things are sorted out finally, all the "drama" is over. call me stupid and flame the hell outa me, but deep down in my gut i believe my b/f, hence the reason we are still together, but if i were to hear anything again i cant say the outcome will be this lucky, and he knows it. Anyways,thnx for the help with things, but in the end despite all this im guna stick with him.
Cosmic Girl: yeah i can see where ur coming from, harper never uses his account so i use it, the acount was mainly created to post his car up for sale, which i did for him because he is too busy with work and things, and this site grew on me, and because i am too lazy to make a new account, and he never uses his, i post under his name and he doesnt care @ all.
Cosmic Girl: yeah i can see where ur coming from, harper never uses his account so i use it, the acount was mainly created to post his car up for sale, which i did for him because he is too busy with work and things, and this site grew on me, and because i am too lazy to make a new account, and he never uses his, i post under his name and he doesnt care @ all.
28-Apr-2003, 09:10 PM
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Not to burst your bubble or anything but you will regret taking him back. Although he probably tells you it wont ever happen again, taking him back will make him think he can do it again and again. I hope that doesnt happen, Good Luck.
28-Apr-2003, 11:10 PM
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Go out with some girls or something to a club or drinking and just let loose for a bit. For sure someone new will come along and take you mind off of things and make you smile
What are you trying to imply ?
28-Apr-2003, 11:27 PM
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lol
well im a risk taker, and im prepared enough to take that chance. everything is settling down, theres no more news flashes from friends about where he is, who hes with and such, so im layin back, but i still keep my eye out.
well im a risk taker, and im prepared enough to take that chance. everything is settling down, theres no more news flashes from friends about where he is, who hes with and such, so im layin back, but i still keep my eye out.
28-Apr-2003, 11:28 PM
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Originally posted by scarlemthug
Not to burst your bubble or anything but you will regret taking him back. Although he probably tells you it wont ever happen again, taking him back will make him think he can do it again and again. I hope that doesnt happen, Good Luck.
Not to burst your bubble or anything but you will regret taking him back. Although he probably tells you it wont ever happen again, taking him back will make him think he can do it again and again. I hope that doesnt happen, Good Luck.
29-Apr-2003, 12:06 AM
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hahaha how is it hard to agree with him? hes made a few really good points on here!
i agree with him on this, but im guna try goin against odds because of this history we've had together, and this is the first incident ever in 15 months, besides the courtney guy who started this all disappeared, mostly because he cant beg rides off chris anymore cause of the whole car blowing up incident. its more this courtney guy than chris that i dont trust. hes cause a lot of **** with a lot of relationships, he tried just 2 weeks ago to screw up chris's best friends relationship. and this courtney guy thinks hes big and bad cause when i started yelling @ him for being responsible for all the **** that went on he nearly punched me, hes known for beating up g/fs and he thinks hes tough because he can.
i agree with him on this, but im guna try goin against odds because of this history we've had together, and this is the first incident ever in 15 months, besides the courtney guy who started this all disappeared, mostly because he cant beg rides off chris anymore cause of the whole car blowing up incident. its more this courtney guy than chris that i dont trust. hes cause a lot of **** with a lot of relationships, he tried just 2 weeks ago to screw up chris's best friends relationship. and this courtney guy thinks hes big and bad cause when i started yelling @ him for being responsible for all the **** that went on he nearly punched me, hes known for beating up g/fs and he thinks hes tough because he can.
29-Apr-2003, 12:16 AM
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Originally posted by scarlemthug
Not to burst your bubble or anything but you will regret taking him back. Although he probably tells you it wont ever happen again, taking him back will make him think he can do it again and again. I hope that doesnt happen, Good Luck.
Not to burst your bubble or anything but you will regret taking him back. Although he probably tells you it wont ever happen again, taking him back will make him think he can do it again and again. I hope that doesnt happen, Good Luck.
29-Apr-2003, 12:25 AM
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lol oh i understand it fine
im just a nutcase goin against odds
im just a nutcase goin against odds
29-Apr-2003, 12:29 AM
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just follow your instinct...
29-Apr-2003, 12:32 AM
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thats probably the best advice ive gotten so far
29-Apr-2003, 12:49 AM
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Originally posted by harper
thats probably the best advice ive gotten so far
thats probably the best advice ive gotten so far
29-Apr-2003, 01:50 AM
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time for me to pipe up again ....(if I haven't already then damn I ain't a post *****)
anyways this is what I think ...
1) I think your going back to him
2) I think that I will not or anyone else for that matter be able to change your mind to go back to him....
so that leads me to number 3
3) becareful and always keep him on his toes
anyways this is what I think ...
1) I think your going back to him
2) I think that I will not or anyone else for that matter be able to change your mind to go back to him....
so that leads me to number 3
3) becareful and always keep him on his toes
29-Apr-2003, 02:22 AM
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hahahaha, well ill stick to MY instincts for now, if im wrong, iou a coffee :P
29-Apr-2003, 08:53 AM
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Ya, I'll have to side with the rest of the boys... I was trying to get with this one girl for the longest time, but she was damaged goods after something like what you describe. Couldn't trust another guy again... The ex b/f fooked it up for the rest of us LOL You've gotten yourself in a very bad situation, and I really suggest you begin looking for someone else. It's clear that you have an attachment to him, but you have to realize the reason you even know him is cuz of circumstances... not cuz "it's meant to be". Remember, life isn't some romantic movie, it's the real deal, and things don't just work out like they do in the movies. Gotta admit you're a stong girl for putting up with it, but I can't say it's a smart decision.
The ex b/f fooked it up for the rest of us LOL You've gotten yourself in a very bad situation, and I really suggest you begin looking for someone else. It's clear that you have an attachment to him, but you have to realize the reason you even know him is cuz of circumstances... not cuz "it's meant to be". Remember, life isn't some romantic movie, it's the real deal, and things don't just work out like they do in the movies. Gotta admit you're a stong girl for putting up with it, but I can't say it's a smart decision.
