scarlemthug

I think that this situation sounds very suspicious to me. There is always a point in a relationship where it just has to end. Either your bf is out running drug deals or he is with another girl. If he wont fess up to being with another girl and lie to you straight up then he isnt worth your time at all. You should seriously dump his *** or just plain ignore him and let him come running back. But while ur ignoring him come to a KC meet and chill with me and Ali. I hope everything turns out alright and that you 2 dont have any further problems, I have been through the same stuff.

~*Erin*~

Thanks guys, the stuff u guys are sayin is makin me feel a lot better and thinkin a lot more straighter bout stuff.

I talked to him about stuff, he still denies it, and it doesnt help that i saw that girls # in his phone but yeah, im thinkin hard about stuff and just gota do a little more investigation. but seriously im glad theres somewhere i can go to find suggestions/opinions other than friends

Gallagher

nothing is better then a little surprise camera in the car or nice phone call to that girl


Eh, what was that show where they catch cheaters in the act?

Prime suspect

~*Erin*~

hahaha
well in rage i deleted the number BEFORE i clued into jotting it down and leaving her with a nice msg.
Apparently from what he told me, he was heading to the bank b4 going to Shwa, when his car caught on fire (cause by faulty wiring and his dad being a dumb *** wiring it so its a continous current of power, basically overloading the system) and his boy and the two girls were there, and he needed help and thats all he could find @ the time, and hes says hes pissed off anyway at his "boy" cause the *** stood there and laughed instead of clueing in that he needed the help. i'd believe his boy sitting there and laughing cause i had gotten into an accident when my b/f had his cavalier, and the guy, Courtney, drove by, pointed and laughed, didnt bother to ask us if we were ok, he just laughed, kicked the car and left.
Ugh, this stuff is SO driving me insane, i wouldnt mind a mickey of vodka right now and just drink away the pain, but i cant, stupid Tylenol 3's and vodka dont mix as i found out earlier

cosmic zx2

baby... where are you?
i'm as licked as you right now
are you on MSN>?

~*Erin*~

i know cosmic is strange but what tha hell??
care 2 explain?

imported_Slvr-Bullet

cosmic zx2

LOL
you said you were on T3's and vodka.... i was merely saying i know how you feel.... i just got home from the club...
..... then i asked if you were on msn
chillax little one.... it was only a question
my bad if you misunderstood that

[1sL0CiviC]

got home from the club at 2.50?

OT i know, sorry....

Erin, i'd say dont jump to conclusions, Chris seems cool, dont worry yourself too much...if it makes u feel better, he had nice things to say about you when i came over to have a look at the REX.

he'll come clean....guys have their times too

imported_gatherer

after reading all that I'm surprised nospleeny hasn't popped in...well anyways here's my advise (don't know if it's worth anything)

1) dump his ***

here's why: even if it's not said alot it's so true that a women controls the relationship (example nospleeny and his ex, Sorry dude but your a good example here) now yes nospleeny's was an extreme that shouldn't been seen but women control everything in the words of givacivic I belive it was "I say when and I say where" (again sorry but it's a good example anyone wanting be to remove this PM me or if I ain't here I'm sure an admin would be happy too) anyways A man should try his women with respect and loyality I think a women should never have to shell out for dinners and dates and car parts (although car parts are something I'd let side ) The woman in question should even have reason to suspect cheating and when she does she should move on...

2) don't drink your sorrows away

they tend to come back every time you sober up deal with them move on and then go drinking....

3) I think cosmic just gave me a new word to add to the list of phrases to call drunk people...

yes last one is completely off topic but the list is probably complete now ...

I hope some of this help ... look up my email address in my profile and MSN me if you think was good advise and wish to discuss it further..... anyways thats my advise...

Whiplash

be nice..

cosmic zx2

licked = drunk

scarlemthug

Just think things over and talk to him face to face and tell him exactly whats on your mind. If he doesnt fess up to it then either he isnt lieing or hes just an *******. Just ignore him for a bit and he will come running back.

Buff 'n Stuff

GATHERER:
I'm sure you mean "treat", and... that NEVER worked for me! EVER!!!



It's all a big game... just gotta know how to play your cards right!

~*Erin*~

well, i talked to her, and today had a run in with this Andrea girl. She was nearly in tears it was hilarious, no fights broke ouy, i asked her wtf was going on, and she said he said he was single, i was like alright ill deal wit him myself but could u please stop talking 2 him and **** cause ud be mad 2 if u were in my place ya know, so all that **** is done and over, now i just gota deal with Chris

oh and 1slo.. what did he say about me lol, im a curious person

btw again i appreciate all the advice, its helped a lot to see things more clearer

Buff 'n Stuff

BUSTED!

scarlemthug

So are you gonna come down to the KC meets ?

jk

I hope your alright, eventhough I dont know you, and you can get better.

illmatic_si

well ******* said sic4door..

best case scenario is that he is just friends with the other girls and was withholding the truth to protect your feelings.. ie. he doesn't want you to think he is cheating on you, so he just won't tell you about it at all. there is an underlying lack of trust present, see?

worst case scenario, I'll share an experience of mine. last yr a female classmate, lets call her M, was rebounding so I introduced her to a buddy of mine. upfront I told her, get what you want and leave this guy FAST. that was a year ago.

since then that buddy of mine has a KID with another girl, and 2 flings.. yet M remains with him cause he tells her that he loves her and will make her dreams come true blah blah blah

I feel SOOO ******* bad for introducing them cause when I see M nowadays, shes lost her glow. that energetic youthfulness that once made her SO attractive. and eventhough she says everything is fine, you can SEE it in her eyes, shes depressed as **** and is COMPLETELY dependent on him.

she KNOWS about the kid and the other girls, but insists on competing with them for his affection.. why??? like cantonagod said, only women know the complexities of the female intellect. maybe shes deluding herself.. maybe shes in complete DENIAL.. maybe shes just SO naive that she beleives him when he says he would never lie to her. whatever, since then I've cut both of them off cause I dont need poisonous people like that in my life

point is that some guys just dont give a **** about anyone but themselves. every action, word and thought is nothing but self-serving. thats not to say there aren't women like that as well.. hell if I wasn't such a nice guy I'd exploit naive people all day too.. I guess thats why I'm not in sales

illmatic_si

doh!!
5 mins too late.. oh well

~*Erin*~

hahaha, if i could get a way up to a KC meet trust me i'd go, i went to one of your meets a last summer at KC, u guys seemed cool, and some damn nice cars!

Ive been talking to chris periodically through out the day, and i dont know 100% where we stand right now, but im definetly sure the Andrea girl wont be calling anytime soon, i couldnt believe how scared she was when i pulled her away from the crowd to talk to her, i almost felt sorry for her. One other person i have total hatred for is Courtney, the guy who started it all, because he knew damn well me and chris were together, and he didnt do anything to stop the things that were going on.

Just thinking about things, ive never been cheated on, nor have i ever been dumped in my life, so this stuff just messes me right up
but, i may not know any of u, but im glad there are people here to talk to and sometimes lend support