Just A Question
25-Apr-2003, 09:25 PM
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Just A Question
Uh hey, its Harpers g/f Erin. I post on this site occasionally, and find u guys give good advice and such so i was wondering if i could get your thoughts and opinions on something.
OK basically i need some insight to see if u guys think this sounds like a guy cheating. yeah, im totally parinoid obviously, but the things ive been told seem to fit.
heres the story.
We've been together for 15 months. Every day we spent together, then all of a sudden (we're talking 5 days ago) he suddenly has lots of things to do for his parents, but i get told hes out with one of his buddies (whos notorious for screwing relationships to get what he wants, in this case a friend with a car) every time hes running "errands". he barely calls, i barely see him. Then i get tips from friends hes cheating. Im not too sure cause i trusted him a lot but i confront him. it was tough to confront him because his grandma had just died. Anyway, i confront him and he swears to me he'd never do such a thing. I leave it at that believing him and being satisfied with the answer that we make plans to chill for today.
So he said he would call me at 2pm. At 5 i receive a call with him apologizing and said he had to go to Oshawa with his mother to visit his cousins. I was like ok cool and he offered to pick me up at 10 to go out for the night and i agreed. at 7pm i get a call that his car has just blown up, hes totally fine, not a mark on him. but i hear hes in Pickering near Denny's (a spot where his buddy chills @, not to mention at this point hes supposed to be in Oshawa with family) I call him immedately to ask if hes ok, offer my help and such. he declined and said hed call me in 10 mins. 5 mins pass and his other friend whos good friends with me calls me and tells me theres 2 brown haired chicks in the back. one was going out with someone, the other Andrea, was to what i hear totally head over heels for my b/f, which freaked me out so i called him an he denied being with them. Timed passed and i get a tip he was picked up by those girls to go out when hes supposed 2 be in Oshawa. i call his cell and ask him where he is, "ajax", i asked him calmy if he was with the two girls and guy (the guy he promised he wouldnt hang out with the night b4) at first he said no. i asked if he was cheating, again "no", i asked him once more, are u sure ur not with them cause thats what ive been told, and this time asked him to swear to me, and i get a reply of "im not swearing to anything (pissed off the whole convo)" and a dial tone. Now his friends and 2 of mine have called him trying to solve this for me, and each time he says Dont worry to who hes with, and doesnt give any answers to cheating on me.
Now from what ive been told he's driving around in his parents car alone with this Andrea girl in pickering right now, and my informers telling me the guy who got them to meet is telling ppl hes crazy about this girl. he went from calling me every day and seeing me for atleast 4 hrs a night to 1 call a day and 1/2 an hr visits at 11 pm.
now tell me does this sound fishy to you?
OK basically i need some insight to see if u guys think this sounds like a guy cheating. yeah, im totally parinoid obviously, but the things ive been told seem to fit.
heres the story.
We've been together for 15 months. Every day we spent together, then all of a sudden (we're talking 5 days ago) he suddenly has lots of things to do for his parents, but i get told hes out with one of his buddies (whos notorious for screwing relationships to get what he wants, in this case a friend with a car) every time hes running "errands". he barely calls, i barely see him. Then i get tips from friends hes cheating. Im not too sure cause i trusted him a lot but i confront him. it was tough to confront him because his grandma had just died. Anyway, i confront him and he swears to me he'd never do such a thing. I leave it at that believing him and being satisfied with the answer that we make plans to chill for today.
So he said he would call me at 2pm. At 5 i receive a call with him apologizing and said he had to go to Oshawa with his mother to visit his cousins. I was like ok cool and he offered to pick me up at 10 to go out for the night and i agreed. at 7pm i get a call that his car has just blown up, hes totally fine, not a mark on him. but i hear hes in Pickering near Denny's (a spot where his buddy chills @, not to mention at this point hes supposed to be in Oshawa with family) I call him immedately to ask if hes ok, offer my help and such. he declined and said hed call me in 10 mins. 5 mins pass and his other friend whos good friends with me calls me and tells me theres 2 brown haired chicks in the back. one was going out with someone, the other Andrea, was to what i hear totally head over heels for my b/f, which freaked me out so i called him an he denied being with them. Timed passed and i get a tip he was picked up by those girls to go out when hes supposed 2 be in Oshawa. i call his cell and ask him where he is, "ajax", i asked him calmy if he was with the two girls and guy (the guy he promised he wouldnt hang out with the night b4) at first he said no. i asked if he was cheating, again "no", i asked him once more, are u sure ur not with them cause thats what ive been told, and this time asked him to swear to me, and i get a reply of "im not swearing to anything (pissed off the whole convo)" and a dial tone. Now his friends and 2 of mine have called him trying to solve this for me, and each time he says Dont worry to who hes with, and doesnt give any answers to cheating on me.
Now from what ive been told he's driving around in his parents car alone with this Andrea girl in pickering right now, and my informers telling me the guy who got them to meet is telling ppl hes crazy about this girl. he went from calling me every day and seeing me for atleast 4 hrs a night to 1 call a day and 1/2 an hr visits at 11 pm.
now tell me does this sound fishy to you?
25-Apr-2003, 09:30 PM
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lol is this the drama that goes on in pickering?? to be honest i would be suspicious.
25-Apr-2003, 09:39 PM
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now tell me does this sound fishy to you?
25-Apr-2003, 09:40 PM
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lol yeah
i am suspisious. VERY suspisious. I dont get if he is why he would. I spent $10,000 on that Crx, for repairs, the system, clothes etc. ive never done anything remotely close to cheating nor would i ever. hes the first person i really cared for, and i dont need things blowing up in my face cause of it.
i am suspisious. VERY suspisious. I dont get if he is why he would. I spent $10,000 on that Crx, for repairs, the system, clothes etc. ive never done anything remotely close to cheating nor would i ever. hes the first person i really cared for, and i dont need things blowing up in my face cause of it.
25-Apr-2003, 09:45 PM
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well you know, wait for a few days first, if he keeps doing that, make sure you talk to him, and I mean really talk~~ make sure he understand what position he is getting himself into. see how he reacts~
25-Apr-2003, 09:45 PM
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just be 100% sure you're not jumping to conclusions, cuz if nothin's really goin on (he's not cheating), this could be the nail in the coffin (so to speak).
25-Apr-2003, 10:00 PM
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well im definetly not jumping to conclusions cause i dont wana lose like the best guy ive ever been with over something that may not be true. My friends on the other hand are a little mad im holding off from just dumping him with out hard solid evidence, cause something in me is holding me back from dumping him cold turkey. Part of me is thnking even if he IS cheating on me, i still want to be with him. Ugh sorry but guys are so damn confusing etc. I think i might just turn lesbian 
25-Apr-2003, 10:05 PM
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Funny I think women are confusing, but I've never ever thought of a drastic change like that. 
25-Apr-2003, 10:07 PM
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Originally posted by harper
well im definetly not jumping to conclusions cause i dont wana lose like the best guy ive ever been with over something that may not be true. My friends on the other hand are a little mad im holding off from just dumping him with out hard solid evidence, cause something in me is holding me back from dumping him cold turkey. Part of me is thnking even if he IS cheating on me, i still want to be with him. Ugh sorry but guys are so damn confusing etc. I think i might just turn lesbian
well im definetly not jumping to conclusions cause i dont wana lose like the best guy ive ever been with over something that may not be true. My friends on the other hand are a little mad im holding off from just dumping him with out hard solid evidence, cause something in me is holding me back from dumping him cold turkey. Part of me is thnking even if he IS cheating on me, i still want to be with him. Ugh sorry but guys are so damn confusing etc. I think i might just turn lesbian
25-Apr-2003, 10:08 PM
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Originally posted by Cantonagod®©
Funny I think women are confusing, but I've never ever thought of a drastic change like that.
Funny I think women are confusing, but I've never ever thought of a drastic change like that.
LMAO!
25-Apr-2003, 10:09 PM
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lol i thought someone would say that.
Just think of it this way
Guy+Money+car= long *** relationship
Guy+Money= good until Summer shopping sprees are done
Guy = good luck
u find the occasional woman who will take u in despite no car no money, harper got lucky, he may have had the car but i had basically enough to buy his car and another rex, so it couldnt have made a diff if he had the car or not
AND u guys are confusing! I ask harper a question i get a grunt, i offer to buy him something and i get the same grunt? do u guys have like a grunting system where if its a high pitched grunt its good, low means bad? all i get is a normal sounding grunt, which confuses the hell outa me
Just think of it this way
Guy+Money+car= long *** relationship
Guy+Money= good until Summer shopping sprees are done
Guy = good luck
u find the occasional woman who will take u in despite no car no money, harper got lucky, he may have had the car but i had basically enough to buy his car and another rex, so it couldnt have made a diff if he had the car or not
AND u guys are confusing! I ask harper a question i get a grunt, i offer to buy him something and i get the same grunt? do u guys have like a grunting system where if its a high pitched grunt its good, low means bad? all i get is a normal sounding grunt, which confuses the hell outa me
25-Apr-2003, 10:11 PM
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**** i wish a girl can buy me a car.
25-Apr-2003, 10:14 PM
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hahaha, well with all the money i spent of helping him fix it up it was basically buying him a new one
25-Apr-2003, 10:32 PM
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do u guys have like a grunting system where if its a high pitched grunt its good, low means bad?
uh 
25-Apr-2003, 10:33 PM
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Originally posted by harper
lol yeah
i am suspisious. VERY suspisious. I dont get if he is why he would. I spent $10,000 on that Crx, for repairs, the system, clothes etc. ive never done anything remotely close to cheating nor would i ever. hes the first person i really cared for, and i dont need things blowing up in my face cause of it.
lol yeah
i am suspisious. VERY suspisious. I dont get if he is why he would. I spent $10,000 on that Crx, for repairs, the system, clothes etc. ive never done anything remotely close to cheating nor would i ever. hes the first person i really cared for, and i dont need things blowing up in my face cause of it.
25-Apr-2003, 10:34 PM
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just dont call him ignore him and he will come back to you
25-Apr-2003, 10:35 PM
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no no no his dad bought the car for him but for the amount of money i put into the car i basically could have been mine
25-Apr-2003, 11:23 PM
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l say u leave him
he is not worth the trouble
and the depression over
l say **** Him
Find Someone
l'm guessing that u are a nice young goodlooking
person
it won't be hard to find another relationship
he is not worth the trouble
and the depression over
l say **** Him
Find Someone
l'm guessing that u are a nice young goodlooking
person
it won't be hard to find another relationship
26-Apr-2003, 12:07 AM
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imo..
if he's even leaving you with the inkling of thoughts that something is going on, you two don't belong together..
and wtf?? even if he is cheating you don't wanna lose him??
(sorry for the bluntness of this comment..but) give yer head a shake girl..once a cheater always a cheater, especially if you let him get away with it.."oh it's okay, just promise to never do it again.." ya, sure, that'll work..
i dunno you, but from what you're telling us, and how you're relaying the story and your feelings about what be, imo you deserve better than this shyt..
ten grand lost is cheaper than any broken heart furthur down the road..
if he's even leaving you with the inkling of thoughts that something is going on, you two don't belong together..
and wtf?? even if he is cheating you don't wanna lose him??
(sorry for the bluntness of this comment..but) give yer head a shake girl..once a cheater always a cheater, especially if you let him get away with it.."oh it's okay, just promise to never do it again.." ya, sure, that'll work..
i dunno you, but from what you're telling us, and how you're relaying the story and your feelings about what be, imo you deserve better than this shyt..
ten grand lost is cheaper than any broken heart furthur down the road..
