so very sad...girl troubles...all my TCC brothers help me out
09-Aug-2002, 03:33 AM
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so very sad...girl troubles...all my TCC brothers help me out
ok well...as of tonight...i lost a girl who was very special to me...to get to the point...she said she didnt want to be together anymore.
honestly, ive never felt as sad as i do right now...every girl that i have went out with, when they left i could careless. i felt no connection with them. but with this girl....it was amazing since day one we hit it off. we enjoy everything. we have the same interests other than music. but she is the best thing that ever happened to me...i would trade it all for this one girl just to be with her and have her by my side. she literally broke my heart today...now i may sound dumb...but i would truly shed tears for this girl. its rare to find a girl that loves the car you drive, to want the same one, its rare for a girl to know how to turbo charge a car and what pistons to use....she knew what i was thinking....she knew what i was going to say even b4 i said it. i apologize for the bad grammar....and i appreciate you guys allowingme to vent my mind. like i said before ive never met a group of people so welcoming as yourselves....you truly are like family to me....now because of that wut should i do? i respect her too much....but i miss her more. do i fight to gain her back?....or do i just let things die. i sounds ridiculous but this girl was the one i waited for....i was ready to risk everythin for her. now you might say if this girl truly felt the same way then she wouldnt have left me like that. and your entirely right. help me out you guys.
whether you guys help me or not...im feeling generous right now....party pizza's for all TCC members at the next meet....i will have them delivered and i hope alan takes them on my behalf....o yeah i read the post...i will buy alan an extra dipping sauce and one for 94eghb too...your choice....creamy garlic....iltlian marinara or jalepano cheddar.
kid
honestly, ive never felt as sad as i do right now...every girl that i have went out with, when they left i could careless. i felt no connection with them. but with this girl....it was amazing since day one we hit it off. we enjoy everything. we have the same interests other than music. but she is the best thing that ever happened to me...i would trade it all for this one girl just to be with her and have her by my side. she literally broke my heart today...now i may sound dumb...but i would truly shed tears for this girl. its rare to find a girl that loves the car you drive, to want the same one, its rare for a girl to know how to turbo charge a car and what pistons to use....she knew what i was thinking....she knew what i was going to say even b4 i said it. i apologize for the bad grammar....and i appreciate you guys allowingme to vent my mind. like i said before ive never met a group of people so welcoming as yourselves....you truly are like family to me....now because of that wut should i do? i respect her too much....but i miss her more. do i fight to gain her back?....or do i just let things die. i sounds ridiculous but this girl was the one i waited for....i was ready to risk everythin for her. now you might say if this girl truly felt the same way then she wouldnt have left me like that. and your entirely right. help me out you guys.
whether you guys help me or not...im feeling generous right now....party pizza's for all TCC members at the next meet....i will have them delivered and i hope alan takes them on my behalf....o yeah i read the post...i will buy alan an extra dipping sauce and one for 94eghb too...your choice....creamy garlic....iltlian marinara or jalepano cheddar.
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09-Aug-2002, 03:42 AM
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dude, i know how u feel, i had to forget 2 girls whom i cared about alot!!! but u can always stay friends if u get in the worst case scenario!
the 1st girl, well, she left to the US for uni, and the other one, well, she was also seeing some1 else i found out!
anyway, i dont think that's helping you!
how exactly did things end? was she mad at you? or things for her wasnt working out?
there may be a reason as to why she has done something like this.......school, job, family issues, i dont know!
how old is she? how long have u been together?
i hope you feel better in the morning, i always feel good during the day, but come evenings, i become one lazy *** ****!
the 1st girl, well, she left to the US for uni, and the other one, well, she was also seeing some1 else i found out!
anyway, i dont think that's helping you!
how exactly did things end? was she mad at you? or things for her wasnt working out?
there may be a reason as to why she has done something like this.......school, job, family issues, i dont know!
how old is she? how long have u been together?
i hope you feel better in the morning, i always feel good during the day, but come evenings, i become one lazy *** ****!
09-Aug-2002, 08:18 AM
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well if she is perfect for you then you should fight for it all the way..some gilrs like to be fought for and they do things like this for the proof that they will be fought for (unless there are other circumstances).. I thinks that if you really like (or love) her you should fight for it all the way...whats the worse that could happen..you would be in the same place you are now right!
09-Aug-2002, 08:43 AM
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word up precision4! i'd definatley agree, now he's not giving you lisence to go all out and be a stalker or anything mad like that, but seriously don't just let her leave without trying to do something about it, especially if she's that perfect for you, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain, plus if you don't atleast try you'll be kicking yourself in the A$$ down the road!
09-Aug-2002, 10:01 AM
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fight for it MAZDA KID!
Ever tried to listen to songs that talk about how a boy or a girl changed and broke? I have never really have any feelings to those songs until I have someone that I really love (The gf I am going out now for almost 2 years). Ever feel lonely at night and started to have images of her and you together? Do not let things like this pass you. If any of the above things happen to you, you are really in love with her, i mean very in love. Fight her back, you guys may not be as close anymore when you do get her back, but time will build things up again. Worse yet if you cannot get her back, at less you will feel you tried and not let the chance pass away.
Good luck ^^
Ever tried to listen to songs that talk about how a boy or a girl changed and broke? I have never really have any feelings to those songs until I have someone that I really love (The gf I am going out now for almost 2 years). Ever feel lonely at night and started to have images of her and you together? Do not let things like this pass you. If any of the above things happen to you, you are really in love with her, i mean very in love. Fight her back, you guys may not be as close anymore when you do get her back, but time will build things up again. Worse yet if you cannot get her back, at less you will feel you tried and not let the chance pass away.
Good luck ^^
09-Aug-2002, 10:31 AM
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Hey Mazda Kid,
I feel for you, and being a woman I may be able to help! Did she tell you why she was breaking up with you? Sometimes it can be as simple as not feeling like you care whether she walks away or not, fight to get her back!
Women like that, if she seeemed upset that could mean she didn't want to do or that she was upset, but trying to prove a point. In short talk to her, tell her how you feel and if she really wants you she'll give you another chance, if not, well some relationships aren't meant to be and I'll try to find a cute nursing student for ya. I'll help in anyway I can, if you have questions feel free to ask me!
Kari
I feel for you, and being a woman I may be able to help! Did she tell you why she was breaking up with you? Sometimes it can be as simple as not feeling like you care whether she walks away or not, fight to get her back!
Women like that, if she seeemed upset that could mean she didn't want to do or that she was upset, but trying to prove a point. In short talk to her, tell her how you feel and if she really wants you she'll give you another chance, if not, well some relationships aren't meant to be and I'll try to find a cute nursing student for ya. I'll help in anyway I can, if you have questions feel free to ask me! Kari
09-Aug-2002, 11:31 AM
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Hang in there it's tough.....
some thoughts....
IMHO Fighting is only worth it if there was a stupid reason for the breakup.
Generally speaking, it's not worth trying to get her back. This may be something you may not want to hear, but generally, if she's made as far as breaking up...she's made up her mind.
Also....you know after she's done this, things will never be the same even if you do get back together....you'll always be wondering.
If you do try to fight to get her back be warned you may lose her as a friend, cuz she may see you as crazy or something....
Based on what you said I think you'd still want her to be your friend.
hope everything works out for the best
some thoughts....
IMHO Fighting is only worth it if there was a stupid reason for the breakup.
Generally speaking, it's not worth trying to get her back. This may be something you may not want to hear, but generally, if she's made as far as breaking up...she's made up her mind.
Also....you know after she's done this, things will never be the same even if you do get back together....you'll always be wondering.
If you do try to fight to get her back be warned you may lose her as a friend, cuz she may see you as crazy or something....
Based on what you said I think you'd still want her to be your friend.
hope everything works out for the best
09-Aug-2002, 11:41 AM
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I wish I could help, I myself went out with a girl for 4yrs, all 4yrs were long distance and I loved her to death...but because of the distance between us, it was just becoming too unbearable to be alone 95% of the time.
If you truely love and care for her, then find out why she did what she did. Understand and fight for her back, when you get her back, start a new page in life. It won't be the same, but treat it as if you've just met, but you already know that she's just perfect for you.
I wish you the best of luck, but like other people said there are other people out there for you, but there's only one of her if you really care and love her.
take it eZ man....
If you truely love and care for her, then find out why she did what she did. Understand and fight for her back, when you get her back, start a new page in life. It won't be the same, but treat it as if you've just met, but you already know that she's just perfect for you.
I wish you the best of luck, but like other people said there are other people out there for you, but there's only one of her if you really care and love her.
take it eZ man....
09-Aug-2002, 03:46 PM
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Go to WAGG and leave all your troubles behind!
Go to WAGG and leave all your troubles behind!
dude i'm sorry to hear. never having been with anyone i can only offer the single guy's advice. go fight for it, cause if u believe she's the one, then don't give up without trying. best of luck bro, and u know the TCC family is here for ya.
09-Aug-2002, 06:44 PM
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thanks everyone...its hard to tell you the truth...i couldnt sleep last night...i fell asleep at 7am....i was just thinking bout her....then when i woke up today...it was like...i think i should call her like the normal routine...completely denying the fact of what had happened last night.
i wanna make something clear though...we werent "going out" persay...both her and i wanted to...we basically were in the sense ya know...its just the time issue i assume....but thats beside the point....you guys remember the episode of the simpsons when lisa tells ralph she doesnt want to be with him? and u can see his heart shatter.....same thing, just i aint ralph lol.
i appreciate all of your help and advice...its kewl to know i can chill with people who are like one big family...and the girls have been very supportive...and for that i send out extra thanks.
other than saying thanks...i cant do much...but buy you guys and girls food...so if u see the roll call for the next meet i made...then post....pizza on me!
i will see what i can do with tis girl...if anything...i can use the numbers i have in my cell.
i would trade it all to be with her...you guys and the songs!!!!! why did u have to bring that up?
now when i hear certain songs...i rush to turn it off...but thats life right? you win some but you lose 10 times more...i guess this is just an excuse for me to be with this other girl ive been wanting to be with peviously.:cry:
i wanna make something clear though...we werent "going out" persay...both her and i wanted to...we basically were in the sense ya know...its just the time issue i assume....but thats beside the point....you guys remember the episode of the simpsons when lisa tells ralph she doesnt want to be with him? and u can see his heart shatter.....same thing, just i aint ralph lol.
i appreciate all of your help and advice...its kewl to know i can chill with people who are like one big family...and the girls have been very supportive...and for that i send out extra thanks.
other than saying thanks...i cant do much...but buy you guys and girls food...so if u see the roll call for the next meet i made...then post....pizza on me!
i will see what i can do with tis girl...if anything...i can use the numbers i have in my cell.
i would trade it all to be with her...you guys and the songs!!!!! why did u have to bring that up?
now when i hear certain songs...i rush to turn it off...but thats life right? you win some but you lose 10 times more...i guess this is just an excuse for me to be with this other girl ive been wanting to be with peviously.:cry:
09-Aug-2002, 10:00 PM
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Hey MAZDA KID,
I’m sorry to hear about your lost … However, don’t you think that love is a funny thing? I mean personally no matter how much I say that I don`t want it, or don`t need it, I really do. In fact a life without love, isn`t life, it`s death. I have come to the conclusion that no matter how much I try, I will always love someone or something. I have tried to convince myself that I do not need love for the longest time but the truth is I do, everybody does.
I think that you shouldn`t really have to work for love. It should just be there. I`m not saying you should just be a total snob, and expect her to love you, but I`m saying you shouldn`t have to try and make someone love you. If you do, is it really love? If someone doesn`t love you for who you are, then chances are they may never love you at all. Granted you should be flexible, and willing to change, but in essence you cannot change who you are, only what you do, and how you react to situations. But first they have to accept you for who you are, and you must accept them for who they are. If you truly love someone you wouldn`t want to try to change them, and if someone truly loves you, they shouldn`t try to change you.
To love is to hurt. That`s all there really is to it. I don`t like to admit it, but unfortunately it is the truth. For some of us love hurts more than for others. The worst way is to love, and never receive any in return. This seems to me to be the ultimate sacrifice. To give so much love, yet never receive any love in return. Anybody who does this deserves a purple heart or some sort of recognition, but they never seem to get any. The unique thing about these kinds of people is that most don`t expect anything in return. They may wish they had something, but they never really show it. Facts are facts, and to love is to hurt, and sometimes you just feel like giving up, but hang in there and keep trying … for some there are great rewards, and for others..... Nothing.
Just remember that when you find yourself in the worst of times, and when you can no longer change the situation, you can always change yourself. It`s true when they say: "pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional." I`ve learned that you`ll never find someone that is perfect, unless you can see an imperfect person perfectly.
I’m sorry to hear about your lost … However, don’t you think that love is a funny thing? I mean personally no matter how much I say that I don`t want it, or don`t need it, I really do. In fact a life without love, isn`t life, it`s death. I have come to the conclusion that no matter how much I try, I will always love someone or something. I have tried to convince myself that I do not need love for the longest time but the truth is I do, everybody does.
I think that you shouldn`t really have to work for love. It should just be there. I`m not saying you should just be a total snob, and expect her to love you, but I`m saying you shouldn`t have to try and make someone love you. If you do, is it really love? If someone doesn`t love you for who you are, then chances are they may never love you at all. Granted you should be flexible, and willing to change, but in essence you cannot change who you are, only what you do, and how you react to situations. But first they have to accept you for who you are, and you must accept them for who they are. If you truly love someone you wouldn`t want to try to change them, and if someone truly loves you, they shouldn`t try to change you.
To love is to hurt. That`s all there really is to it. I don`t like to admit it, but unfortunately it is the truth. For some of us love hurts more than for others. The worst way is to love, and never receive any in return. This seems to me to be the ultimate sacrifice. To give so much love, yet never receive any love in return. Anybody who does this deserves a purple heart or some sort of recognition, but they never seem to get any. The unique thing about these kinds of people is that most don`t expect anything in return. They may wish they had something, but they never really show it. Facts are facts, and to love is to hurt, and sometimes you just feel like giving up, but hang in there and keep trying … for some there are great rewards, and for others..... Nothing.
Just remember that when you find yourself in the worst of times, and when you can no longer change the situation, you can always change yourself. It`s true when they say: "pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional." I`ve learned that you`ll never find someone that is perfect, unless you can see an imperfect person perfectly.
09-Aug-2002, 11:38 PM
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My take on this situation is as follows, hearts are meant to be broken and tears are meant to be cryed but my heart has been broken for so long that as time goes on i feel nothing, my eyes have been wet for so long that i have no tears to cry with. Ihope she comes back, but if she doesnt, then my perception of her being perfect may be the end result of false hopes from day 1.
fack...now im feeling bad again. :cry:
fack...now im feeling bad again. :cry:
10-Aug-2002, 12:48 AM
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All I can say is that we have all had are hearts broken at least once in our lives. There has been that one person that we have loved with all our heart and has not returned that love. When you wake up to that reality you feel like your world has shattered. You feel like you will never love that way again. She is all you think of and becomes your world. It feels like you will never love that way again. You ask yourself why is this happening to me? Am I not good enough? What`s wrong with me?
Then, as time goes by, you get the answers to your questions. You begin to realize that it all happened for a reason. You realize that she is not the one for you. The more you analyze the person you begin to see the differences. You realize that you don`t know that person like you thought you did and they don`t know you. Then comes the understanding that you deserve someone who will love, cherish, appreciate you and never take you for granted.
Once you reach this point, the pain of never having her starts to minimize. It becomes a learning experience. You learn more about yourself. You learn to recognize the qualities you do want in a person. You learn that you will love again and even stronger.
When two people love each other mutually and give to each other freely that love grows and matures. If it were not for the experience of our broken heart and those lessons we learned along the way we would not be the loving, understanding people we become.
All past hurts teach us and mold us in becoming better people which give us the tools to create successful relationships. Mazda Kid just remember even though you have been hurt and disappointed ... love will come again!
Then, as time goes by, you get the answers to your questions. You begin to realize that it all happened for a reason. You realize that she is not the one for you. The more you analyze the person you begin to see the differences. You realize that you don`t know that person like you thought you did and they don`t know you. Then comes the understanding that you deserve someone who will love, cherish, appreciate you and never take you for granted.
Once you reach this point, the pain of never having her starts to minimize. It becomes a learning experience. You learn more about yourself. You learn to recognize the qualities you do want in a person. You learn that you will love again and even stronger.
When two people love each other mutually and give to each other freely that love grows and matures. If it were not for the experience of our broken heart and those lessons we learned along the way we would not be the loving, understanding people we become.
All past hurts teach us and mold us in becoming better people which give us the tools to create successful relationships. Mazda Kid just remember even though you have been hurt and disappointed ... love will come again!
10-Aug-2002, 01:05 AM
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Ha! Ha! Pizza? Well, in that case ... don't give up. Maybe try apologizing for whatever you might of done to upset her. Or maybe just go out and buy her a diamond ... you know what they say "a diamond is a girl's best friend."
Do I get Pizza on Wednesday's meet?
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10-Aug-2002, 02:25 AM
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All I can say is that we have all had are hearts broken at least once in our lives. There has been that one person that we have loved with all our heart and has not returned that love. When you wake up to that reality you feel like your world has shattered. You feel like you will never love that way again. She is all you think of and becomes your world. It feels like you will never love that way again. You ask yourself why is this happening to me? Am I not good enough? What`s wrong with me?
Then, as time goes by, you get the answers to your questions. You begin to realize that it all happened for a reason. You realize that she is not the one for you. The more you analyze the person you begin to see the differences. You realize that you don`t know that person like you thought you did and they don`t know you. Then comes the understanding that you deserve someone who will love, cherish, appreciate you and never take you for granted.
Once you reach this point, the pain of never having her starts to minimize. It becomes a learning experience. You learn more about yourself. You learn to recognize the qualities you do want in a person. You learn that you will love again and even stronger.
When two people love each other mutually and give to each other freely that love grows and matures. If it were not for the experience of our broken heart and those lessons we learned along the way we would not be the loving, understanding people we become.
All past hurts teach us and mold us in becoming better people which give us the tools to create successful relationships. Mazda Kid just remember even though you have been hurt and disappointed ... love will come again!
All I can say is that we have all had are hearts broken at least once in our lives. There has been that one person that we have loved with all our heart and has not returned that love. When you wake up to that reality you feel like your world has shattered. You feel like you will never love that way again. She is all you think of and becomes your world. It feels like you will never love that way again. You ask yourself why is this happening to me? Am I not good enough? What`s wrong with me?
Then, as time goes by, you get the answers to your questions. You begin to realize that it all happened for a reason. You realize that she is not the one for you. The more you analyze the person you begin to see the differences. You realize that you don`t know that person like you thought you did and they don`t know you. Then comes the understanding that you deserve someone who will love, cherish, appreciate you and never take you for granted.
Once you reach this point, the pain of never having her starts to minimize. It becomes a learning experience. You learn more about yourself. You learn to recognize the qualities you do want in a person. You learn that you will love again and even stronger.
When two people love each other mutually and give to each other freely that love grows and matures. If it were not for the experience of our broken heart and those lessons we learned along the way we would not be the loving, understanding people we become.
All past hurts teach us and mold us in becoming better people which give us the tools to create successful relationships. Mazda Kid just remember even though you have been hurt and disappointed ... love will come again!
