imported_MartinGouda

i am a non smoker and my gf had just quit smoking 2 months ago.

she had a smoke today at lunch casue her day was "stressful" and i dont approve...

does this mean that she didnt quit or is this somthing i should over look?...

i am not sure i can over look it but i want to know if i am over reacting in your opinions..

imported_BoOsTd

A friend of mine quit for over 6 months.. All it took was 1 lung biscuit and he was hooked again... daily smoke since... Ive heard this from others that have tryed quiting.. sometimes they have to quit 3 or 4 times before they are really considered non smokers...

bbarbulo

iTrader: (2)

over reacting

don't think you can control her life... if she wants to smoke, she'll smoke regardless of whether you approve or not...

how many of my friends lie to their g/f about quitting smoking... all of them! only cuz they stress them about it constantly. It's easier to just lie about it and be done with the nagging

so why you gotta add stress to your g/fs day, you are supposed to be comforting. get over it, you are dating a smoker... once a smoker, always a smoker. that urge to smoke never quite goes away. my dad quite 10 years ago for good, and like 6 years after he quit, he'd still reach into his pocket for smokes after lunch, just outta straigh habit.... I mean not constantly, but once in a blue moon I'd see him feel his pocket... I know how he feels cuz I'm a smoker now...

imported_MartinGouda

so if i cant take it then mmaybe it'ss better if we part ways?

casue i HATE smoking

bbarbulo

iTrader: (2)

up to you chief... bottom line is, she won't care what you say... well she might, but don't nag about it... she knows you disapprove, let her make the decision about smoking or not. And if you are willing to leave her over smoking, then you obviously don't love her and are wasting both your and her time.

as long as the girl doesn't smoke in my car or my house, I'm aiight with it, but I've never dated a girl who smokes... I personally think it's gross too.

Legacy73

It all depends on how you feel about smoking and the smell of it. I know someone that will not even talk to a girl if she smokes, he finds the smell and taste of it replusive.

I quit buying smokes 8 months ago because of the price and because my g/f doesn't like kissing an ashtray all the time. She also knows what will happen to me in the long run if I do keep smoking and I decided to cut down from 15 smokes a day to one. That 1 smoke a day is for me and she knows that I still smoke sometimes.

Hopefully she'll be honest with you and if she does start smoking a little more hopefully she'll do it long before she see's you that day just to be considerate.

If you are really against smoking then you need to keep a watch on her and make sure she doesn't start buying packs again, that's when she'll most llikely start up again.

BOND007

If the only reason that you breakup with her is because of smoking than most likely you weren't meant to be together in the first place....




Just my 2 cents

imported_MartinGouda

yeah man...

it feels like i got cheated on..

cause she knows i hate them and seriously wounldnt date a smoker..

imported_MartinGouda

thats just like me

bbarbulo

iTrader: (2)

you are too controlling and jealous... learn to give the girl some space, let HER make decisions about HER life. she didn't cheat on you, she just had a smoke... but like I said, if you'll leave her over smoking, I imagine you don't love her to begin with.

imported_MartinGouda

i am controling and jelouse but i do love her...

yO

Controlling and jealous... She must have patience but eventually that runs out.

Legacy73

It's not all about control though. I've been dating my g/f for 3 years and love her very much, so much that she now lives with me. She asked me to quit and I pretty much did except for my 1 smoke a day usually and when I'm drinking, I will continue to have a smoke if I feel like it but try my best to be considerate towards her since I now she doesn't like it.

I was smoking a 1 pack/day when I met her and continued that way for 2 years so she still loves me whether I smoke or not and that's what it comes down to.

I would have to agree that once a smoker always a smoker for most people.

bbarbulo

iTrader: (2)

I'm the same way... cuz none of my ex g/f smoked, I never smoked when I was with them... I'd clean my stanky self up, and no more smokes till after they left.

Whiplash

did she smoke when you became involced??

so, she was good enuf then, but now that she hasn't "conformed" to your beliefs and thoughts she's not good enuf anymore??

buy yerself a blow up doll, you can make them do anything you want..

people don't understand the idea of accepting people for who they are anymore.. 'tis a pity

Nova_Dust

You gonna die one way or the other, regardless you smoke or not. Yes it has higher chance of causing cancer, but not all smokers die of cancer.

I know, that was an irresponsible statement.

I smoke, and I dont' smoke that much. During TCC meet I might smoke a bit more cause of talking and drinking coffee. Other then that, I have maybe 3 or 4 a day. Sometimes, none. The bottom line is, when me and my gf go out, we will definitely sit in non-smoking section, unless we go to bars. I don't really kiss her after I smoke, and I try not to smoke in front of her, because of the smell.

It is a little hard to date someone who smokes (if you don't) or date a non-smoker (if you do smoke). Differences in interest could cause problem. But relationship is all about compromise to a certain extend. Ads that tells people that their significant half die of 2nd hand smoke is bullshit. Unless you blow smoke in their face everytime, chances are, I don't think you will get cancer from the smell on your clothes.

I enjoy dinning at a non-smoking section, live in a non-smoking house (my father and I smoke, and we smoke outside) and work in a non-smoking environment. Which is why, I smoke outside to preserve the fresh air indoor.

I think you just need to compromise between you and your gf. Like my above examples. At least that's how I do it.

imported_toyman29

hey, if she smoked at lunch.. and she quitted.. how did she get that smoke? did she have a pack? or got it from someone else

i cant figure how smoking can relieve stress... i guess i never will b/c smoke stinks

and its $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$

imported_MartinGouda

someone from work

Nova_Dust

Smoking is a habbit, like chewing gum, like alcoholic, like shoplifting, like all sorts of things.

The best moment of smoking is the moment you light it, the first drag, the look of the cigarette when it is still long and clean. The moment of something begins and you know it is the moment to relax, to chill, to sit and break from whatever you are doing at the moment; to brain storm about ideas when you are stressed out; to enjoy the quiet moment and just look at people walking by on the street; to be cheerful after you worked on your car and to smoke one as a sign of celebration that you have accompolished something good.

I smoke on a more symbolic level. Every cigarette has a meaning behind it.

yO

No one can figure it out because it's a myth.

Living an active lifestyle is the most popular way to relieve stress.

Cigs are the biggest scapegoat hehe.