k20a2_civic

its been more then 3 years since my friend life was cut short by a violent attack by 10+ people. I never got over it even thought people told me that u will forget. Everytime i think bout some problem i have, i think, dam i wish he was here to help me think bout it. I feel really crappy and find it hard to focus on work or even go out wit gurl. I jus wish i could forget bout every time we spend chyllin and havin fun...but i can't...what can i do...

kwyze

I have lost a few close family friends, my uncle and my dad. You will eventually get over it when your mind decides to start to grieve over your those you have lost. There is no certain amount of time as to how long it will take, but all that you should do is think about the happy times that you had with him, and be grateful that you had someone so close in your life. I'm sorry to hear about your friend, but you should never forget about him, if that's what people are saying. Think about all the happy times you shared with him, and be grateful that you knew your friend for the amount of time that you did.

droppedatbirth

^^^ Thinking about the happy times will just make it worst. It will make you miss that person even more. Just block it out of your mind and move on with your life. That's just another way of coping....which is not to think about it.

Cynikal.Mindset

lost a good buddy last summer, still have his number in my phone...kinda sucks seeing it in there cuz I wanna call him to hang out...but heck thats life and he's wherever we are laughing at the debauchery and stupid stuff we do...RIP Kevin, miss ya man!

imported_GoldBadge

I look at it the other way.

My grandmother passed away a few weeks ago and I look at all the memories and think about how lucky I was to have someone like her in my life.

Her passing isn't anything like what happened to k20a2_civic's friend, but you can't try to block the memories out of your head. You have to look at them as a blessing and be glad that you once had that person in your life. Be thankful for the times you did share with each other and the memories you now have. You can't dwell on his death and sulk; you're not going to help anything. You just have to be strong and learn to cope with it and move on.

You can try donating to a charity or getting ivolved in something that he would have been proud of...or visiting his family when you feel down; if anyone can sympathize with you, it would be them.

imported_Bruce Fee

be glad the part of life you did share together.

and never forget.

rozzini

I lost my dad when I was 13 (19 now). It was the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with. He was my best friend and he's the one that really got me into cars at a young age working on honda's. It's hard to think about it no matter what. Remembering the good times helps sometimes.
He died of a massive stroke coupled with coronary heart disease and diabetes. The doctors claim the stroke was from 22 years of intense stress providing for my family. The hardest part is realizing he died supporting our family in the best ways possible.

nashall

ive lost 2 close friends with 9 months apart from each other....it was a ruff year for me and anyone that knew them....and the following year my buddy lost his little sister (9 years old)

droppedatbirth

I didn't say to dwell on his death and sulk.

jdmcrx000

in the last 3 years ive lost a good friend from highschool, my step father( was like a real father) my real father, my grand father, and some other firends that i knew so, ya its been hard for me 2

imported_JookSingKid

Losing a really close friend was one of the hardest things that has ever happened.

I still think about him all the time.

tanjian

Grief is an unpredictable emotion... there is never a proper way to deal with it...

its okay to still be missing him... some people get over it, some people never do... let time do its thing... and know that there is no real and proper way to deal with it... everyone is different...

but just like everyone says, cherish the moments you did have with him... and hang on to those...

just make sure you don't lose joy in your own life, your buddy would never have wanted his death to hold you back... honour him by living it joyfully...

I just found out my GF's mom died this morning... so the grief is pretty fresh for me too...

good luck K20

imported_Team Rukus

like you i lost my friend three years ago.
seems like it happened yesterday.
even to this date i cant forget it and he will always remain in my heart. thats why it says R.I.P Rajeevan on my msn for the past 3 years. My best friend was shot with a shot gun at warden and 401 howard johnson hotel parking lot when some drunk moron tried to beat up another friend my friend was with and he tried to break it up at which point the guy pulled out a gun and shot him.

I try to think about all the good times we had but sometimes its so hard and i keep replaying what could have happened that night since i wasnt there and it just stops my heart.

imported_Italia311

LAst year I lost 2 cousins within a span of 8 months. Both to car accidents. I just think of them every now and then, about the things we did and at the same time believe that they are in a place where they are happy with other family members.

imported_JusBlaze

I have too many friends that died...and its ALWAYS the ones that dont deserve it...i see drug dealers and murderes all the time but the people who have basketball scolarships to the states and the people who never were involved always get it

RIP david preston
RIP gopiraj
RIP chico

imported_1PhatCX

i lost 2 good friends, one back in grade10, one in grade 11, hurts like hell, always think of them, and everytime i hear wish u where here by pink floyd i always just get in a trance and just think about how different things would be if james was still here, thats his fav song, and its weird how it comes on the air when i drive by his house or where he died, but all u can do is just think that it happens for a reason, hes in a better place, nothin u can do, u cant block it out 100% but it doesnt hurt to think about them once and awhile, theres nothing u coulda done.

RDub99

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Life has a way of teaching us all that time is short.

kwyze

i don't really agree with that at all. but if it works for someone then that's that. i believe that you should honour anyone you have known that died but living life to it's fullest, and putting it away and never thinking about it is basically like pretending that the person never existed, and that the person didn't have any influence on your life at all. with my dad passing away, it's inspired me to live my life to the fullest, as it's too short to worry about the small things. he had such a large impact on my life that i won't let his life go to nothing, and forget about him. i would give anything to be anything to what he was as a father, and i will never pretend like he didn't exist.

it is true, and unfortunately, it isn't until something happens to us that we realize it. kind of unfortunate when you think about it.

k20a2_civic

Thanks you guys, everyone that shared there stories, i really felt better at least getting to share something and hear from you guys. Thanks!

spracingsports

I lost a friend a while back, he became a born-again christian and now he's dead to me.